Loving yourself is just as important and beautiful as loving another person. Ironically, we sometimes do a better job at loving others than we do ourselves. Quiet as it’s kept, loving yourself is really the prerequisite to loving others well.
Why Is it Important to Love Yourself
When you love yourself it shows. There’s an unmistakable joy you have that can’t be easily taken away. When you love yourself, it is harder for the words and actions of others to take you down. When you don’t love yourself well, you are easily offended, and your happiness is often left in the hands of others. Not loving yourself well also leads you to beat yourself up and ultimately not present your best self to the world. Friend, that is not what we want!
You owe it to yourself to love yourself very well and be the best you that you can possibly be. Today, I am sharing
10 tips to love yourself better
1. Love yourself by Forgiving Yourself
Stop beating yourself up and holding yourself back. You deserve to move on from your past mistakes. It may feel like others are holding your mistakes over your head, but don’t fall victim to that. You have the power to forgive yourself and free yourself from living with guilt. Most importantly, God has already forgiven you and if you can accept that forgiveness, you can surely forgive yourself.
2. Let Yourself Feel
You don’t have to fake being okay. No matter how you are feeling, allow yourself to really feel it. Don’t sweep your thoughts and feeling under the rug or mask them for the comfort of others. You deserve to process your thoughts and feelings in a healthy way. There is never a need to feel guilty about how you feel.
3. Love Yourself by Stopping Negative Self Talk
Trust me when I say, you aren’t alone in this. Most of us spend a good amount of time criticizing ourselves and not enough time affirming ourselves in a positive way. Even if you don’t speak the negative thoughts aloud, your inner self hears them. So, make a promise to yourself that you will catch those negative thoughts and quickly turn them into something positive to build yourself up.
4. Put Yourself On Your Schedule
I have said it before, there is no prize in giving everything to everyone, except yourself. We put dates, brunches, appointments, and meetings on our schedules, but it is not common that we put ourselves on our schedules. If we do put ourselves on our schedule, we often cancel if something else comes up that we feel is more important. Friend, let’s not do that anymore! Make time for yourself and don’t compromise it!
5. Schedule Regular Health Checkups
Know your status! Nothing says self love like prioritizing your health. Don’t let aches and pains (mental or physical) just be. You don’t have to live with an ache or concern, because you have become accustomed to it. See your doctor and mental health professional and get answers for anything that is bothering you. Your life depends on it.
6. Don’t Deprive Yourself of the Things that Bring You Joy
Deprivation has never been good for anyone. If something brings you joy and doesn’t compromise your health, enjoy it! Even if it is in moderation, enjoy the things you love. If you love donuts, have one sometimes. If you love shopping, allow yourself to shop sometimes. You deserve to have a smile on your face and often!
7. Love Yourself by Speaking Life to Yourself Daily
This goes right along with cutting out negative self talk. Whether or not you call them affirmations, develop a habit of hyping yourself up daily! Tell yourself how amazing you are. Speak life and truth to yourself. Remind yourself of how God sees you. The more you do this, the harder it will be for the negative thoughts to take over.
8. Let Go of People Who Compromise Your Peace
No one deserves to be in your life if they are constantly compromising your peace. Sometimes we have to let people go. Take inventory of the people in your life and make a decision on who really deserves to be in your space. Only you can make this decision, but you owe it to yourself to only genuine and mutual connections in your life. Set boundaries when necessary and don’t feel guilty for that.
9. Start a Morning Routine
A morning routine is definitely a sign of self love. When you love yourself, you live intentionally. Having a morning routine is about as intentional as you can get. When you start a morning routine, you are less likely to be shaken by the happenings in your day, because you started the day in control and you don’t relinquish control to anything negative.
10. Don’t overextend yourself for any reason.
Remember this: things and people can wait. Your health and peace are important and overextending yourself compromises both. Be objective in deciding what you can take on and what you can commit to. As with anything else we have discussed, don’t feel guilty for saying “no” or rescheduling. You need breaks and rest. Don’t overfill your schedule with anything.
Final Thoughts
I hope you found this to be a helpful read. As you can see, loving yourself is not rocket science. It just takes intention and commitment. Don’t be swayed away from self love by yourself or anyone else. Comment below and let me know if there is a self love practice you think I left off this list.
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